In depression 25 years ago I cut my wrists and the scars are irremovable. I'm labeled for life.?

When I was 24 I had problems I could not deal with. Was diagnosed as bipolar. 25 years later I'm doing very well in all aspects of life with help of friends, family, and medication. However, if new people see the scars they immediately think I'm a troubled person and will not want to know me. It is a real obstacle to making new close friends. Any ideas?In depression 25 years ago I cut my wrists and the scars are irremovable. I'm labeled for life.?
You don't want any new friends that immediately thinks you have a problem based on your scars. I think every one on this planet has been in depression and thought of ending their life at one point in time. If you are a nice person to be around, the scars wouldn't matter. There are a lot of shallow people in this world, even if you didn't have the scars, people might shy away, if you mentioned that you are bi-polar. Once they learn that, they might think you are likely to snap. People are afraid of everything.


You are looking for acceptance, don't expect to find it everywhere. I think people in general are struggling to find a connection with other peopleIn depression 25 years ago I cut my wrists and the scars are irremovable. I'm labeled for life.?
I can understand why you feel like this, unfortunately scars do hold memories even though we try to forget.


I would try some Bio-Oil, this is supposed to work on scars, or maybe have tattoos done over them. I assume they are in the inside of your wrist so it would look perfectly normal for you to have them there.


As you are a bloke you can have something really wonderful, get some ideas from tattoo magazines and really go for it. Maybe something symbolic or just something colourful or maybe tribal as a lot of blokes have now.


I am glad you have turned your life around, its not easy when you have been so down, but you found the strength within yourself to do just that.


Be proud of yourself.
Unless you get plastic surgery, you will have them for life.


BUT, the kind of friends you want should not be bothered by problems you had years ago, especially if you behave normally now. If someone you care about see them and asks, tell them, when you were younger, years ago, you were going through a lot of problems, which resulted in the scars. But since then, things have gone much better, no problems since. If you don't care that much about being friends with a person who asks, tell them you don't want to talk about it.


I'm on Lithium, and have been for 20 years, and I'm more reluctant for people to know that than incidents in my past.
If any asks or seems to be taking an interest in the scars, just say:


'Ah! I see you spotted my carpel tunnel syndrome surgery scars'.


Cheap, effective and who's going to argue?


Carpel tunnel syndrome is quite common and requires an incision remarkably like a 'wrist slash' (Google it)


It's only an obstacle to making friends if YOU think it is.


Actually you would be amazed at how UNOBSERVANT most people are.


The 'problem' isn't in your wrist(s) or with potential new friends, the problem is in your head. Get RID of it. Seriously.


Who gives a **** what you may or may not have done a quarter century ago?


Or if you want to be really brave go the other direction, and if anyone notices or comments, say '; AH that's all part of my sinful past';


THAT will get their attention and interest in you for sure. Then you can spin 'em any sort of yarn you like for 10 minutes (the more exotic the better), finishing up with, ';Actually I had to have surgery for carpel tunnel syndrome'; (with a grin).


You've started a friendship already!!!
Try talking to a plastic surgeon. Some of them are incredible - I saw a man who got his face put well together after being shot in it. So I don't think they would have too much trouble, but it is important to talk to an expert in this area since the scar is on thin skin and on very tender place.There are some cremes that make scars less visible, or powders.
There are laser treatments that remove scars. It's like $500 a session and could take several times to completely remove the scar tissue... It's not affordable, but maybe if it's important to you, it's worth the investment.
Get tottood on the scars or get the scars removed by plastic surgery.
have your tired surgery or a maybe tattos, im getting my sacrs covered over once they have healed properly